Michal and Milos

Medical Information:

General Health:

We're both in perfect health; Michal just has lactose intolerance, and Miloš has seasonal allergies to pollen.

Fertility Information:

We have 6 PGS-tested embryos, and another 3 are still being tested. Our embryos were created using donor eggs from a known donor. Our egg donor is a wonderful young woman from Canada’s East Coast. She’s very kind and shares our values. If necessary, we are able to create more embryos.

Fertility Clinic:

Create, Toronto, ON.

Why are you looking for a Surrogate?

Surrogacy is our only chance to make our dream come true—to become dads and start a family.

Tell us about your family & loved ones.

Our parents knew from the very beginning that we were going to take this path. So we share every step of the way with them, and we experience everything together. They fully support us. And they often ask us, what’s “new.” We both have one sibling—Michal has a brother and Miloš has a sister. We feel comfortable confiding in them and we discuss many of our decisions with them. They’re also involved in the whole process. Michal’s brother has two wonderful kids (ages 1 and 3), so we practice being parents with them. :D Miloš’s sister is an elementary school teacher, so she gives us advice on raising children. We have a huge support network of friends where we live. They are people we can count on, and they can count on us too. We often discuss surrogacy with them, and they help us get through it all.

Would you like to attend appointments with your Surrogate?

Unfortunately, due to work commitments, we won’t be able to attend every doctor’s appointment. However, we’d like to stay in touch with the Surrogate throughout the process and receive updates on her checkups. We want to be her support system—someone with whom she can share both the joys and concerns of the entire process, as well as things unrelated to it.

What are your thoughts on termination of a pregnancy due to genetic abnormalities or complications related to the pregnancy?

For us, the health of the Surrogate and the child is our top priority. If it becomes necessary to terminate the pregnancy because the Surrogate’s life is at risk, we have absolutely no problem with that. Her health is our priority.
Termination is, of course, a very sensitive issue for us, and we realize the seriousness of this decision. If the fetus were to have serious genetic abnormalities, we would agree to a termination.

If the Surrogate becomes pregnant with multiples, how would you feel? How do you feel about the possibility of selective reduction being recommended due to a multiple pregnancy?

Of course, we would be happy. But, as we’ve already mentioned, the Surrogate’s health is our top priority, and if selective reduction is necessary, we have absolutely no problem with that.

Are you vaccinated for Covid-19? Do you have a preference for a Surrogate to have been vaccinated for Covid-19?

We are both vaccinated against COVID-19. However, we do not require the Surrogate to be vaccinated against this disease.

What kind of relationship do you want to have the your Surrogate during the pregnancy?

During the pregnancy, we want to support the Surrogate as much as we possibly can. Of course, we will respect the form and frequency of communication so as to make it comfortable for the Surrogate. We are open to daily communication, depending on what the Surrogate prefers. To us, she will be an exceptional person who is willing to sacrifice her health, well-being, and comfort. We want to be there for her and her family.

Do you want to be in the delivery room when your child is born?

We would definitely like to be present at the birth, if the Surrogate is comfortable with that.

What kind of relationship do you hope to have with your Surrogate after the birth of your child?

Because of what the Surrogate is willing to do for us, she will become a beloved member of our family. We would like to continue communicating with her and sharing our life journey and milestones. We’re also open to visits, as long as the Surrogate is comfortable with them. As we’ve written, she will always be someone truly special to us.

Would you be open to a home birth?

We prefer to give birth in a hospital setting. As a pediatrician, Miloš is present at births at work and is aware of the risks associated with home births.

Are you open to midwifery care?

If it is a low-risk pregnancy, we have no problem with that.

Would you like your Surrogate to provide breastmilk?

If she's comfortable with that, we'd be happy. But we don't insist on it.

What will you tell the child about the Surrogate, and the circumstances of their birth? If the child asks to meet the Surrogate, how will you feel?

We want to communicate openly with our child. That way, they’ll know the whole story of how they came into the world.

We'll be happy if our child asks to meet the Surrogate. We will support our child, but we will also respect the Surrogate’s wishes. If she’s okay with it, we’d be very happy to develop this relationship as well.

If the transfer is unsuccessful, will you want to try again? If so, how soon after?

Yes, we would try it again. We would rely on the doctor's recommendation in terms of timing.

If this surrogacy journey is successful, would you want to complete a sibling journey? What do you envision that looking like? (timeline, same Surrogate etc.)

We both feel that we’d like to have two children. After all, we both come from families with siblings, and we recognize the benefits of having more than one child. As for timing, we’re thinking it might be around four years after the first birth. It would be wonderful to have the same Surrogate help us, but we understand she may not want to carry again, or be able to.

What are your plans for childcare once the child is born?

We plan for Michal to stay home with the baby on parental leave. In the Czech Republic, this can last up to three years. Our employers are fully aware of this plan and support us. Miloš, as a pediatrician, would handle all medical care. Miloš’s mother is also a pediatrician, so we believe the baby will be well taken care of health-wise. :)

What does a typical weekend look like for you?

I think we can say that we have three kinds of weekends.

1. Work weekend – once a month, we are on duty at the hospital over the weekend. We try to schedule our shifts on the same day so we can spend the other day together. After our shift, we usually rest and catch up on sleep. We also take time on this weekend to go for walks and we enjoy watching TV (re-watching Harry Potter or reality shows like Survivor). This is the type of weekend we like the least.

2. Spending time with family and friends – Our immediate family lives an hour away from us, but in different directions. Sometimes we visit Michal’s brother and his family, often staying overnight so we can play with our nephew and niece longer. Other times, we head over to see our parents and help out around the house—doing yard work. The day usually ends with a family barbeque. If we’re not seeing family, we might travel or stay home and hang out with friends. We have a lot of them, spread all over the Czech Republic from Prague to Olomouc.

3. A weekend for us—We usually spend it going on a trip or flying somewhere. In Europe, you can get to a completely different place in no time, and we love experiencing that together. However, if we stay home, we do what we love. Michal likes to cook, build LEGO, or play video games on the PC. Miloš prefers to read or watch documentaries, especially those about history or architecture.

What are some of your interests/ activities?

Our hobbies include running, going to the gym, reading (Michal—sci-fi; Miloš—history), and cooking—though Michal is the only one who cooks, Miloš just likes peeling potatoes. :D

Fun Facts:

In terms of food, Michal loves chili con carne, cabbage soup, anything sour (really), and ramen! Miloš enjoys chicken, pizza and spaghetti, but he’ll actually eat anything Michal cooks for him (he doesn’t have a choice) :D

Michal loves hockey; he follows the NHL results and sometimes gets up in the middle of the night to watch live games. His favorite team is the Toronto Maple Leafs, but their results aren’t making him happy :(. Michal also gets up early in the morning, which is sometimes a problem because Miloš is a sleepyhead who would rather sleep in. Michal spent a month in Toronto last year at the Princess Margaret Cancer Centre for an internship.

Miloš likes to watch tennis—he roots for Alcaraz. He’d love to go on vacation to the same place every year, which Michal successfully prevents him from doing :D.

Until now, our favorite place to visit together was Rome, Italy (Miloš has been there 9 times!!), but after our honeymoon in Japan, we have a new favorite. But Italy will always hold a special place in our hearts.
At the Winter Olympics in Milan, we cheered for Canada in the semifinals, which they won against Finland!!

“We’d like to tell you a little about ourselves. We’ve been together for almost 7 years and married for a year. We’re a couple from the very heart of Europe—the Czech Republic. It’s a beautiful country that’s definitely worth visiting. Unfortunately, as an LGBT couple, we don’t have the option to start a family here.
If we had to describe ourselves, we’re a couple that’s very family-oriented. For us, family is the most important thing, and that’s how we were raised. That’s why we see our loved ones as people we must always help and who would always help us.
We’re both quite different, though.
Michal is more of an extrovert; he loves to laugh and crack jokes. He’s a real ball of energy.
Miloš is more laid-back, calm, and nothing really throws him off balance. But that’s why we complement each other so well. We’re able to help the other with whatever they’re struggling with.
We fell in love with Canada even before we decided to pursue surrogacy. We’ve been there three times already and we love going back.”