Michiel and Kevin

Medical Information:

General Health:

Good general health.

Fertility Information:

Kevin’s sister Nandy has been helping us in our journey to becoming parents. In April 2025, she went through an egg retrieval and donated her eggs to us! We now have 20 healthy frozen embryos, 10 of which have been sent for testing.

Fertility Clinic:

Victory Reproductive Care in Windsor, Ontario.

Why are you looking for a Surrogate?

We strongly believe in the idea of surrogacy and the power of women to bring life into this world. We want to use a Surrogate to fulfill our wish of becoming parents. We are two gay men and think using a Surrogate will help us to fulfill our dream. That's why we are looking for a woman who is willing to make this lifechanging journey with us with love and respect.

Tell us about your family & loved ones.

We already talked about using a Surrogate with our close family, including parents, and they all understand why we will take this path and hope this will help us fulfill our dream. Our siblings (Michiel has 1 brother and 2 sisters, Kevin has 1 sister) are very excited for us. Kevin’s sister Nandy can't wait to help us by donating her eggs.

We talked about this path with some of our friends and co-workers and everyone is very curious how this process works since it isn't the most known about path in starting a family. We've had nothing but great reactions from friends and co-workers.

Would you like to attend appointments with your Surrogate?

Yes, we would like to attend some obstetrical appointments with our Surrogate. Since we don't live close-by, we can't make every appointment but we hope to be there with the transfer and several highlights during pregnancy. One of them will be the gender reveal and always in agreement with the Surrogate.

What are your thoughts on termination of a pregnancy due to genetic abnormalities or complications related to the pregnancy?

If the health of our Surrogate is in risk due to complications, we understand it would be necessary to end the pregnancy. If there are any genetic abnormalities we would consider termination if the health of our baby is at risk.

If the Surrogate becomes pregnant with multiples, how would you feel? How do you feel about the possibility of selective reduction being recommended due to a multiple pregnancy?

If a pregnancy with multiples occurs, we would want to make sure the Surrogate isn't at risk. Only when the Surrogate's health wont be at risk we would consider a pregnancy with multiples. If the doctor advices selective reduction because of the risks, we will totally understand.

Are you vaccinated for Covid-19? Do you have a preference for a Surrogate to have been vaccinated for Covid-19?

Yes, we have had all the vaccinations for Covid-19. We don't have a preference for the Surrogate's Covid-19 vaccination status.

What kind of relationship do you want to have with your Surrogate during the pregnancy?

For us, mutual respect is the most important factor. We understand that surrogacy is both physical and emotional, and we want to communicate in an atmosphere of trust, openness and care. It is a privilege for us to work with a woman who feels heard and can express her boundaries and feelings. We will strive to make the journey as positive and respectful for her as it will be for us, with understanding, support and love as the foundation.

Do you want to be in the delivery room when your child is born?

It would be a privilege to be present during the birth and we hope that our Surrogate will be open to this. Naturally, we would be happy to discuss this with our Surrogate.

What kind of relationship do you hope to have with your Surrogate after the birth of your child?

We believe that the relationship between the parents and the Surrogate is a partnership in which we both play an active and equal role. For us it is important to maintain a good and open relationship not only during the pregnancy, but also afterwards. We most definitely want to keep in touch, of course only if the Surrogate is open to this idea.

Would you be open to a home birth?

We would want the best medical care possible for our Surrogate and future baby. If our Surrogate prefers a home birth, we are more than happy to support this choice!

Are you open to midwifery care?

Just like a home birth, if our Surrogate would like midwifery care, we will be 100% supportive. We want our Surrogate to know we fully support her choices and trust her decision making.

Would you like your Surrogate to provide breastmilk?

This is something we will want to talk about with our Surrogate. We understand the benefits, but worry it could also make the detachment to our baby more difficult. The Surrogate’s opinion is important to us.

What will you tell the child about the Surrogate, and the circumstances of their birth? If your child asks to meet the Surrogate, how will you feel?

During our conversation with our counselor, we learned to be as open as possible about our journey with our future child. We also plan to be open about the role of our egg donor, Kevin’s sister Nandy. With mutual consent from the Surrogate, we want to share about her role with honesty to our child. We understand it could help our child to understand where he/she comes from. If the surrogate is up to meeting our child, we will support this idea.

If the transfer is unsuccessful, will you want to try again? If so, how soon after?

Yes, we would want to try again. As soon as (medical and mentally) possible.

If this surrogacy journey is successful, would you want to complete a sibling journey? What do you envision that looking like? (timeline, same Surrogate etc.)

We would be overjoyed with just one child and don't dare to dream about having a second child yet.

What are your plans for childcare once the child is born?

We have spoken with close family members about this and we have mothers and sisters, who've had babies, who are willing to help us in Canada when the baby is born.

What does a typical weekend look like for you?

During our weekends we like to be active by running or visiting the gym. We also like to do activities, for example by planning a cultural activity (museum, music) or going for a long walk into nature. We also try to see our friends and family during the weekend because our social lives are very important. If there's any time left, we enjoy spending time around the house together. We have a garden where we love to enjoy time in the summer.

What are some of your interests/ activities?

We enjoy sports (gym, padel- similar to pickleball! ). We love to explore the world by travelling to destinations around the world. Our friends and family are very important to us so we try to spend lots of time with them. Michiel loves to garden in the summertime. Kevin works in education and loves to develop his knowledge about primary education and leadership.

Other fun facts:

We love the Italian kitchen. Michiel is a great cook and loves to experiment with new dishes. We cook every night and enjoy meals from different cultures. We know everything about each other and are very synchronised. When we play games with friends we can't form a team because everyone knows there's a great chance we will win. We do have our very own personalities; Kevin is more extrovert and Michiel a bit more introvert. We feel we like we complete each other. And since we are about the same height and weight, we even share some of our wardrobe.

“We've known each other since we were 7 years old when we met at our gymnastics class. By age 11 we lost sight of each other and we met again when Michiel was 17 and Kevin 18. Since then we've both known that we are meant for each other. We've been together since and got married in June 2024. Since we've been together so long, our families are also very close. Our dads work out every week together and all of our family members live close-by in Amsterdam.”