Dear Surrogate Friends,

Greetings from sunny Los Angeles! I hope this letter finds you in the best of spirits in Canada! Let me express my gratitude and excitement for the journey we're potentially embarking on together. 

Now, let me introduce myself. I'm Peter, a 48 year old, single, financially secure, responsible, gay guy. Born in California, I’m living in the land of palm trees, paparazzi red carpet events, and traffic jams. It's a place where a lot of us, including myself, are drinking kale smoothies, doing yoga, or stuck in traffic discussing everything on wireless bluetooth.   

You’ll probably hear me in my car on my daily commutes to work talking to my best friend Lisa.  She knows and personally can tell you, I'm beyond excited at the prospect of sharing this surrogacy journey with one of you.  If all goes well, I promise to be a kind, caring, respectable father who values education, hard work and responsibility.  But I’m also one who won't be too serious to not show up in matching outfits with his kid at Halloween parties and going to Disneyland a little too much.  Being the Crown Jeweler of Miss California USA and my baby being born to a Canadian, I figure my little one will have the best of both worlds—some Hollywood sparkle and a generous sprinkle of Canadian kindness.

For many years, I've already been a very involved uncle who has been actively co-parenting my 16 year old niece for over 10 years.  But now being in my 40s, I’m seeing some gray hair. It's time for me to upgrade my status to a responsible, wise father. 

Now, I know it might seem a bit unconventional for a Californian to be seeking parenting assistance from the Great White North. And that's where you come in, my incredible Surrogate hero. Someone who is healthy, easy-going, and willing to commit from her heart to a very important role.  To carry my baby and help me meet him or her!  I really really need you! 

I know my Surrogate is also a mother with her own children.  She would already be a reliable and responsible parent. Some people might feel there are some reservations about whether a single guy will have good parental skills.  I want my potential Surrogate to be assured I will not only be a positively affirming parent, but also one who knows how to use the power of “no.”

  • No to endless hours on the iPad

  • No to eating the the entire pail of Halloween candy in 1 night 

  • No to the teenager who want to drive without a license

Even as a single parent, I will set responsible and reasonable boundaries that will also ensure the safety of my child at every stage of his or her life. “No” can be used successfully to love as well.  You can rest assured that I will lovingly know how and when to firmly say, ”no.”

That being said, we all, including myself, have encountered rejection and “no’s” in our lives.  Many of you probably know how I feel.  So, I hope that doesn’t prevent one of you from choosing this single person to be an outstanding parent in the future.  I’ve mentioned my emerging gray hair. I hope to get this plan moving forward soon to have a child by the time I’m 50 years old and with a half-decent hairline. 

In all seriousness, I really hope one of you will connect with me and want to say “yes” to being my Surrogate.  Hopefully, she and I will have a great relationship with honest communication and mutual understanding.  She will be under the medical care of my incredible clinic-  Dr Victory and Dr. Mayrand at Victory Reproductive Care (VRC)  in Windsor, Ontario.  Moreover, I also have a medically cleared Canadian, known egg donor who will begin cycling for me on November 24, 2023.  The egg retrieval should occur on December 8-15, 2023.  We should have embryos graded and ready in January 2024! 

Moreover, I also wish to ensure you know that there is a village of people who will help me raise my child in a loving home and community.  Grandparents, Uncles, Aunties, Cousins and many close friends who will want one of you to say: “Yes to Peter!”

If you say,  “Yes to Peter,” and we are a good fit, I promise to send you care packages filled with California almonds, LA Kings Hockey t-shirts and a Mickey Mouse plushie for good measure. And, of course, we'll have regular video calls on how the baby is doing and can compare our local weather (spoiler alert: it's probably still sunny here).

From my heart, I am genuinely grateful for all of your consideration and willingness to be a part of this incredible journey.  Even if you don’t choose me, thank you for working with other IPs too. Your generosity is making my dream of becoming a father a reality, and for that, I can't thank you enough for your consideration.

Warmest Regards,

Peter Y.