Dear new friend and future Surrogate,

Thank you for taking the time to even read this letter, let alone consider being a part of our journey towards starting a family! There are no words to express the immense gratitude we feel for what would be the most selfless and generous gift possible, and we’re really looking forward to getting to know you on this journey together. For now, let us share a bit more about us!

We’ve been together for 12 years and have been on the journey towards building our family for just over a year! David is originally from Port Hope, Ontario, and Tristan was born and raised in Toronto. We both went to Queen’s University in Kingston, ON at the same time, but didn’t meet until our path crossed in Toronto in 2014 - we were each meeting some friends at the same bar, and caught each other's eye from across the room, after some prolonged glances and smiles, David knew he had to approach Tristan and introduce himself! We fell in love quickly over our shared values and loves of music, nice beaches, camping trips, animals and having many a good home-cooked meal and glass of wine with our closest friends.

We’ve now lived together in Little Italy in Toronto for the past decade with our two kitties and are fortunate to have just bought our first home together in this neighbourhood we’ve come to love so much. In that time, David has been self employed as a visual artist exhibiting his paper collages and drawings in Canada and abroad, and Tristan has worked in various marketing jobs and currently works at Google. We’ve been lucky to go on annual camping trips together, many trips to BC visiting friends, and some bigger adventures including 6 months backpacking in Europe and New Zealand. We spend a ton of time with our friends, at home with our two cats listening to music, working on our house and garden, watching a fun (or scary) tv show, and visiting with our parents and siblings in Toronto, Port Hope, and Vancouver. We are also very lucky to have a niece and nephew who we’ve watched grow up from babies to almost teenagers over the past 10 years and have loved spending time and making memories with them, especially over the summer months at Tristan’s family cottage.

We’re now at the juncture in our lives where we feel ready and excited to build our own family. We know we can offer children a loving, fun-filled, safe and connective home, and as parents we’d want to create the space for our kids to become their fullest, most authentic, secure, and happy selves. Being queer has meant learning a lot of self-love, compassion, and holding deep capacities for empathy. It’s also meant finding joy in a loving community of friends and and chosen-family, who will be active and loving forces in our children's lives, in addition to our families-of-origin who are so excited for us to become dads! We’ve both dreamed of being parents since we were very young, and are extremely excited and full of anticipation to be getting closer to that next step in our lives and relationship!

We’re part way through the process - we matched with an egg donor who we were really lucky to meet in-person (a magical experience!) and have a few PGT tested embryos frozen. We are planning to create several more embryos in the fall of 2026. Now, we're at the stage where we’re looking for our Surrogate (aka our hero!) It is not lost on us that because of Canada’s laws around both of these processes, donors and carriers are offering their time, energy, and bodies selflessly - which we do not take lightly! It will be hard to ever properly thank you for your immense generosity, but we will do our very best to show you just how much it means to us and our future family, and how much we will treasure this gift for the rest of our lives!

We would be open to a wide spectrum of relationship styles for our friendship throughout this journey, but do not want to enter the process with too many expectations. It’s really important for us to know what you’d want/need to feel supported, safe, autonomous and cared for - and also for the relationship to feel like it can grow organically and authentically!

At minimum, we are hoping for a relationship founded on mutual trust and respect, open and honest communication (especially when it’s hard!), and compassion/care for each other. We’d love to have the opportunity to connect in-person, and would be very open to traveling for visits with you regardless of where you might live in Canada, if that’s something you’d also want of course! We’d really love to get to know who you are - your life, family, interests and passions, and hopefully share some laughs and hugs along the way :)

We cannot wait to meet you and begin this next chapter in all of our lives together! While surrogacy is undoubtedly a more complicated and winding path, we know and trust that this journey will become a beautiful, heart-felt story that we look forward to sharing with our child. From the bottom of our hearts - thank you for taking the time to consider us!

David & Tristan