Dear You,

This is Sergio and Ian, writing from Spain, Europe. We are not the best at promoting ourselves in writing, but we will do our best and we will try to sketch who we are, why we cannot wait to go into parenthood and why we will be forever grateful to you.

We are a couple of 34 and 38 years old. Our story started six years ago next to a yellow mailbox in Madrid. Sergio had recently moved back to Spain from Japan and Ian had been living in Madrid for a long time by then. Sergio preferred tea, cold weather and ‘organised chaos’ and Ian preferred coffee, warm weather and ‘rational tidiness’; so, we decided to live together shortly after that- what could go wrong? Spoiler ahead: it couldn’t go any better! Even though we could not be more different we found our balance in complementing each other: Sergio pushes Ian to go into the unknown and Ian is a compass for Sergio to find steadiness.

Despite the differences, our core values are completely aligned. In six years, we have worked hard (and we are still working hard) to provide our family and home with solid foundations. We understand a family as a team that works together to create a safe space in which everyone is loved, respected, and taken care of. That is why we cannot wait to make our family bigger! We have always been the ‘favourite cousin’ and the ‘favourite uncle’ as we loved spending time with the ‘new generations’ of our families who are constantly asking when the newest member of the crew will be joining the party.

We would love to see a little one becoming the best version of themselves, to share our passions with them and to become part of theirs. As a matter of fact, we have already started the ‘children’s library’ that includes books, artwork materials and Disney movies to provide them with the tools to develop their agency and their own personality.

Back in 2021 we tried adoption, but it is not easy for a gay couple. By then, we were living in the United Kingdom, so we were denied the chance to start the process in Spain. Even now, the waiting time is over seven years in our country.  We find that international adoption for a gay couple does not provide safety guarantees, so we started to look into surrogacy. It is not an option in Spain, so we have searched for a country that met the safety guarantees we were looking for the baby, but also for the Surrogate. Second spoiler alert: that country is Canada!

We do appreciate that You have reached this point of our story =). You may be wondering what do we have in mind when thinking about You? We have not met yet, but we would like for you and your family to become part of ours. We want to make sure that you have all the family and friends’ support that you may need and that you feel comfortable with us.  The baby is not going to be only Spanish, but also Canadian, so we would love to strengthen their bond with Canada, its traditions, its culture, and its people. Their people. If you want to and if you are comfortable with it, we would love that You and your family become a key element to keep that bond alive. At the end of the day, You are the indispensable person that can make our dream come true.

So, where are we now? We already have eight embryos and we have been looking for ‘the You’ since 2021. We both changed our jobs to get permanent positions working for the Government (Sergio is devoted to satellites and space communications and Ian works as a political counsellor), we recently bought a family car (its name is Pluto) and a house, so we keep making little steps further for the baby’s arrival. Thus, we hope to meet You and your family sooner than later and, of course, we cannot wait to meet our new family member!!

Best,

Sergio & Ian