Dear Surrogate,

There aren’t enough words or expressions of gratitude to thank you for reading this letter and to potentially begin this journey with us. The decision you are making holds tremendous significance in our lives, and we are filled with excitement and hope as we embark on this journey together. 

Creating a family has been a dream that we have held close to our hearts for years. Amidst all the challenges and struggles we have faced on our journey to parenthood, there is one big wish that has remained constant in our hearts: to experience the immense joy of holding our own child and become parents.

Our journey to parenthood started with hope and excitement, eagerly anticipating the day we would hold our own child in our arms. We dreamt about the joyous moments, the first smiles, the sound of tiny footsteps in the house and the unconditional love that would fill our hearts. We couldn’t be happier when we found out to be pregnant! The happiness came to an end when we lost our beloved babyboy at 30 weeks of pregnancy. We were devastated but there was no time to grief at that moment. Yvette’s life was at danger because of a bacterial infection which led to a severe septic shock and it nearly took Yvette’s life. Moments of fear and anxiety filled our lives and Yvette faced a long physical recovery period. We were heartbroken of losing our baby and facing an insecure future concerning getting pregnant again.

We underwent numerous medical treatments and fertility procedures, facing disappointments along the way. Despite our best efforts, we faced the heartbreak of unsuccessful attempts. Each setback tested our strength and resilience, but it also reinforced our belief in the power of love and the desire to become parents. As the months turned into years, we found ourselves on an emotional rollercoaster. We questioned our hopes and dreams, wondering if they would ever come to reality. The weight of the uncertainty and the fear not being able to have a child of our own, weighed heavily on us, both individually and as a couple.

Throughout this process, we have been blessed with unconditionally support from our friends and family, who have stood by us through both tears and smiles. They have been a pillar of strength and their encouragement has helped us keep moving forward.

During our journey, we explored various options and sought guidance from medical professionals. It was during this time that the idea of surrogacy came to our lives. The idea of having a child through surrogacy filled our hearts with hope. When we found out about the incredible women who selflessly offer to be surrogate mothers, we were overwhelmed with gratitude and admiration. The idea that someone could understand our longing for a child and be willing to help fulfill that dream is something we will forever cherish.

We understand that the decision to become a surrogate mother is a deeply personal one, and we want you to know that we hold immense respect for your choice. Your compassion, selflessness and generosity are qualities that inspire us.

As we move forward together, we promise to be open and transparent about our emotions, both the joys and the anxieties. We want to form a bond built on trust and genuine understanding. We want you to know that we value your emotional well-being as much as we do our own. Your feelings and thoughts are very important to us. We are dedicated to making this experience as positive and memorable as possible.

We recognize that the journey ahead may still have challenges and uncertainties, but we know we can overcome any challenges that may come our way, as a united front. We are here to support you in every possible way. With your incredible generosity, we are taking a step forward fulfilling our biggest dream of becoming parents. Your role as a surrogate mother is a gift beyond measure and for that we will eternally be grateful for the love and dedication you are bringing into our lives.

Moreover, we want you to be part of our lives beyond the pregnancy, if you are comfortable with that. Our child will forever be a testament to the love, care and selflessness you have shown and they will always be aware of the incredible woman who made their existence possible.  

Once again, we would like to thank you again from the bottom of our hearts for considering this incredible gift of surrogacy and for giving us the chance to experience the profound joy of parenthood. In the meantime, we dream of the day when we can hold our child in our arms and celebrate the beautiful connection that binds us all. We eagerly await the day when we can meet you in person, share our hopes and dreams, and create beautiful memories together.

With immense gratitude and warm regards,

Patrick & Yvette