Quentin and Romain

Medical Information:

General Health:

In good health.

Fertility Information:

We have 14 embryos. 10 tested. We have the details of those tested. We have used an egg donor. She is a semi-known egg donor.

Fertility Clinic:

Victory Reproductive Care in Windsor, Ontario.

Why are you looking for a Surrogate?

As a same sex couple, our options were limited. We want to start a family and having a baby from birth is a wish. We want the chance to see our child grow up and all that comes with that- even the sleepless nights! Surrogacy in Canada suits us very well. We want to get to know the Surrogate and make sure she is doing well, that's important to us.

Tell us about your family & loved ones.

Our parents reacted very well. They are very happy with the journey and can't wait for us to have kids. They support us a lot, we are very lucky. Some terms or details are not easy to understand for them, but they are interested in each step. Like our parents, our siblings can't wait to be aunt and uncle. Our friends support us a lot. Some of them have already offered baby things or clothes for our future child. We can count on some close friends to support us for all the ups and downs throughout the journey. We also have friends and family members who have infertility concerns, and we can talk to them freely about our journey, and they understand us.

Would you like to attend appointments with your Surrogate?

Yes, we'd like to attend, at least virtually. Perhaps not all (it also depends on the type of examination and whether or not the Surrogate is comfortable and would like us to be a part of the appointments)
We live far, but we would like to come in person for at least one exam (for the gender reveal, for example).

What are your thoughts on termination of a pregnancy due to genetic abnormalities or complications related to the pregnancy?

We are not against it. This is sometimes necessary. If there are abnormalities in the baby or if it becomes very risky for the Surrogate, we're in favor of termination. We want everyone to be healthy.

If the Surrogate becomes pregnant with multiples, how would you feel? How do you feel about the possibility of selective reduction being recommended due to a multiple pregnancy?

It's not a first choice, but we would be happy. If a reduction has to be made for the good health of the Surrogate, we're okay with that. We'll go along with the doctors' advice.

Are you vaccinated for Covid-19? Do you have a preference for a Surrogate to have been vaccinated for Covid-19?

We are vaccinated. We leave the choice to the Surrogate and doctors.

What kind of relationship do you want to have with your Surrogate during the pregnancy?

Close without being intrusive. We hope to receive news regularly (every week or more) to know how she feels and how the baby feels.
We would like to build a relationship with her because she will have an important role in this life journey. Because, no matter what relationship we have with her in the future, she will forever be the person who gave birth to our child. We would like to get to know her and we would love to meet her in person during the pregnancy.

Do you want to be in the delivery room when your child is born?

It would be a dream, an incredible gift, but we know it depends on the Surrogate and her choices and we understand that it is a delicate moment for her.

What kind of relationship do you hope to have with your Surrogate after the birth of your child?

We think it's important to keep in contact. We could have video calls or send photos after the birth. Probably less so than during pregnancy. When the child grows up, we probably won't be able to see each other every year. But we think it's good to keep a small link. She will forever be the person who gave birth to our child. We're not looking for a Surrogate who is too close, but we are not looking for one who is too far either.

Would you be open to a home birth?

No, we prefer a hospital to avoid any risk.

Are you open to midwifery care?

We're not against it, but we prefer obstetric care.

Would you like your Surrogate to provide breastmilk?

No, that's not a wish.

What will you tell the child about the Surrogate, and the circumstances of their birth? If your child asks to meet the Surrogate, how will you feel?

We want to explain to him or her how he or she was born, because it's important for their development, it's part of our and his or her history. We've started a Baby Book to explain this journey. We will feel great if our child wants to meet the Surrogate, we will then take a trip to Canada!

If the transfer is unsuccessful, will you want to try again? If so, how soon after?

Yes, as soon as possible, with the agreement of the doctors and when the Surrogate feels ready.

If this surrogacy journey is successful, would you want to complete a sibling journey? What do you envision that looking like? (timeline, same Surrogate etc.)

Yes, we dream of having 2 children in all. If things go well with the Surrogate and she is willing, we would be so grateful to do another journey with her, maybe 2 years later?

What are your plans for childcare once the child is born?

We will have time after the birth, and holidays when we return to France. When we go back to work, the child will have a nanny. We have flexible working hours and can work from home.

What does a typical weekend look like for you?

We have two types of typical weekends-
There are those where we visit friends or family who live a little far away. We stay there all weekend to enjoy them, take a walk, change the landscape.
The other typical weekend is when we stay at home. We take the opportunity to relax and have friends or family for dinner. It's also a time to relax and watch series or films on the sofa, read in the garden, enjoy the cats and go to the cinema or the restaurant.

What are some of your interests/ activities?

I (Quentin) love watching horror movies, but I’m also a big fan of Disney and Harry Potter, watching them over and over again. I also like Tim Burton and Stephen King (also in book). I like to make Lego to relax. I've recently taken up running (there's still some progress to be made). I listen to music all the time. Sometimes I play video games, like Mario, Zelda on the Switch or Tomb Raider or Harry Potter on the PC.

Me, Romain, I love watching series and films (but not horror movies like Quentin). I like to read when I have time. I love cooking, making little dishes when we have people at home, as well as making little desserts. I'm not a great sportsman, but I like to swim my 1500m every week. I like to sit in the sun and have a coffee. Like Quentin, I love listening to music, and we spend a lot of time sending each other recommendations on Spotify. There's always music at home. We love, when there is the opportunity, to go to concerts together or with our friends.

We also love going for walks together, along the seaside (because we're lucky enough to live nearby), but also wherever we can, as soon as we can discover new places. We like to say hello to our friends and family who live nearby.

Other fun facts:

We have two lovely cats : Pixelle and Ouija. They have respectively 10 and 7 years. When it comes to favourite foods, Quentin : I love pasta! But also cheese! :D Romain : I love traditional Italian pasta alla carbonara! Quentin: I love castles! We like to go to a French region where there's a lot to visit.
I am a cleaning pro, you could say it is a “passion”, I like everything to be in order. My favorite trip was to Italy, especially Pompeii. Romain : My favorite trip was South Africa, but that was a while ago, more recently it was Canada of course!

We are very much in respect, sharing and listening.

”We would like to be able to create a relationship with you, neither too close nor too distant, even after birth. Because we are taking this journey together now, but also because he or she will have questions later, and particularly because you will forever the person who gave birth to our child.

This surrogacy adventure that you are beginning, we can continue it together, give life and help us realize our dream of becoming parents and starting our family. This dream of life cannot come true without you, and we hope you'll find us worthy of you to carry our child.”